Love is something special, something shared between two people. When you find yourself head over heels with a stomach full of butterflies, it is the best feeling you will ever experience. Love is capable of miraculous things such as rendering you unable to find anything wrong with sitting through 90 minutes of watching a ball fly up and down a football pitch, propelled by various feet and other body parts with the aim of relocating it inside a net. And if that’s not a good enough miracle for you, you will find yourself strangely interested by a group of men spending a further hour discussing the previous 90 minutes.
That’s love for you, when you find yourself with the person you love you feel invincible and just sitting watching a football game can be better than a free shopping trip in Selfridges! To love someone in such a way, it is vital that you are able to trust them! I for one would not willingly hand over my heart and soul to someone that I could not trust. I do not wish to see my heart ripped apart and stamped upon if I can help it. I’m sure you would not either.
So you can understand my confusion when I first heard about pre-nuptial agreements. If I found myself soon to board the train to be a Mrs. only to be met by ‘Mr. Pre-Nup’ in the departure lounge, I would promptly relocate myself to the customer services desk and demand a refund (after I had finished crying that is). The fact that such a contract has even found its way into existence troubles me deeply. Knowing that it has become part of wedding arrangements makes me want to give up on mankind altogether and go back to bed! Should you have even the slightest feeling that you cannot trust your partner, then my advice is steer clear of wedlock!
Over the last few decades our attitudes towards marriage or civil partnership have changed greatly. At one point we believed that marriage was forever, an unbreakable bond. However, “till death do us part” is now merely a collection of words arranged to form a sentence. At one point these very same words were an expression of true love and devotion. When you entered into a marriage, you did so with the belief that it was forever. Fair enough it wasn’t always forever and, although divorce was frowned upon, some of these unities did end. Sadly some continued even after the ring of love had slipped from the hand of marriage and no doubt these couples were unhappy, but they did have the choice to separate should they wish to.
Nowadays many couples do not marry, be it due to the ever rising cost or lack of want for commitment. Some do not marry for fear of the aftermath if they should separate. Which is what the 'pre-nup' was designed for but as I said, should that fear be present in your mind I think you need to think rather more deeply about your relationship. A lot of modern marriages fail due to the fact the couples do not put enough thought into strolling down the aisle. Nor do they consider the responsibilities, loyalties and such that come as part of the package. In fact the majority do not even know each other well enough, so upon seeing each other’s true colours and realising they do not mix, there is no other solution than to abandon the canvas and go back to the drawing board.
When you marry and separate from your partner you should ultimately, in regards to financial matters, receive an equal sum of money if you have bought your house, car etc together. Although, if one party has contributed a larger amount, it is only fair for them to be reimbursed in the same manner.Â Although neither parties should be left without somewhere to live and should children under the age of 18 (or 16) be involved, the parent who is granted custody is entitled to claim a sum of money to help them support the child/children.
Some people, naming no names, (Heather Mills) become bitter and take revenge by claiming every penny they can, my question is should they be entitled to do so or not? I myself never had the chance to marry my partner as I sadly lost him to heart failure after four years. Even so, I would not even have started a relationship with him let alone contemplated marriage, if I had not thought it was forever.Â If you ever find yourself untying the knot you have made with your partner, don’t be consumed with hate or allow yourself to fall victim to greed. If in fact you did love them, then wish them well and hope they find happiness. I can tell you now with all honesty, I would much rather my late partner be alive and wed to someone other than myself, than to be sat amongst photos, all too aware of the contents of the container in my cupboard.
This is only my personal opinion; I cannot and will not tell you how to live your lives.
Although, should you feel the need for a pre-nuptial agreement, I ask of you please to take a second to consider and ask…. why it is that you actually need one.